I have a divorced male friend who is an amazing man. He loves the Lord passionately, is a great dad to his kids, and is responsible, funny, kind, generous, and to top it all off, sexy. My kids like him and have suggested that I should have a romantic relationship with him, and I would agree, but for one thing: he has no room for a woman in his life right now.
My friend has major baggage. His ex-wfie cheated on him, so he has trust issues. She left him in debt, so he has to work long and hard to pay the bills. She has abandoned their kids, so he is a full-time dad.
Oddly enough, I think his luggage matches mine in many ways. My ex-husband cheated on me, so I have cynicism issues. He left me in debt (I just found out that his refusal to pay off a debt he was ordered by the court to pay cuts off one very good funding source for me to go to school). My ex has seen his kids once in the past year, so I am a full-time mom....24/7/365.
I have prayed for and about this friend often lately, and I have the distinct impression that I am to be an instrument of healing in his life. I don't know exactly how God will use me, but I feel fairly sure that He plans to.
I also have a strong attraction to my friend. At this point in my life, he is the ONLY single man I know whom I would consider dating.
So my quandry is this: How do I know if he is worth waiting for? And would I be wasting time if I waited and he is never ready or he meets someone else in the meantime?