Saturday, December 18, 2010

Top Ten Reasons Why It's Good Not to Have a Husband

Just in case anyone thought I was whining or complaining about my marital status in my last post, today I am going to give equal time to the up side of my state of being.  Without further ado, here are my top ten reasons why being unmarried is a good thing.

1. Nobody steals my blankets on cold nights.

2. Nobody keeps me awake with their snoring.  Well, at least not in my room.  Several of my children snore on occasion, sometimes loudly enough to wake me.

3. Nobody hogs my bed by taking his half out of the middle, leaving me to dangle precariously on the edge.

4. Nobody's alarm wakes me hours before I actually need to get up, except for my teenaged daughter, who sets hers early so she can beat me into the shower.  Don't tell her, but I actually prefer to let her go first, so I can sleep in AND have a warmed-up bathroom when I go in.

5. I don't have to have dinner on the table at an exact time each evening.  In fact, calling it "Catch What You Can Night" and letting each person find whatever leftovers they'd like whenever they are hungry is okay sometimes.  (Don't ask me how many times this week.  It was a busy week....)

6. I don't have to rush home from activities we are all enjoying so we will be there when someone gets home from work. 

7. We can all fit in a normal family-sized car in a pinch, although it's tight stuffing two adult-sized kids in a backseat with my only remaining child-sized child.  Still, when there were six of us, only minivans or SUV's were practical.

8. Along those same lines, there is room to bring along a friend or two in the van.

9. We can enjoy activities that my ex-husband didn't care for, like tent-camping.

10. I get to make all the parenting decisions.  In fact, I get to make all the decisions for my household.  Because my view on a wife's role is based on the Biblical standard of "Wives, submit to your husbands," this is something I would not be able to do if I were still married.  Also, it forces me to rely on God for the wisdom on how to parent my kids, since I don't have a husband to guide our family.  And really, who better to rely on?

So being without a husband isn't all bad.  There are good things to be found even in my unmarried state, which is why I can say with the apostle Paul, "I have learned to be content in whatever state I am in!"   I may occasionally feel as if I am missing out, but truly, I am blessed no matter what my marital status may be!


Joanne said...

You ARE Blessed!!!

Loving Our Homeschool said...

I'm just amazed that there are men who actually expect #5 and #6.

Denise Houser said...

I'm not sure if my ex expected that, but I expected it of myself. I didn't always succeed, (especially with #5 when I was pg or nursing, which was over half our marriage, LOL!), but I felt it was important to let him know how much I looked forward to seeing him each evening, and making dinner was one way to say "I love you" to him.