Holidays for my children are governed by a custody agreement. Christmas is handled differently than most other holidays, at least in my state. Here, the standard agreement is that one parent gets the children from noon on Christmas Eve until noon on Christmas day, and the other gets them from noon on Christmas day until noon the following day, and the arrangement alternates from year to year. I happen to think that is the most ridiculous arrangement I have ever heard of, but that's the way it is.
Last year, my ex was "taking a break" from the children. He claimed they were disrespectful and that he wouldn't be able to see them, so he stopped by a few days before Christmas for about five minutes and dropped off a bag of gifts rather than spending 24 hours with them.
This year, my children haven't seen their father since a week after he moved to Canada in early April. They haven't heard from him via phone or email or any other way since Labor Day weekend. So I emailed him a week ago and asked what his plans were for Christmas, whether he would be following the custody agreement, or if he needed to make adjustments, since he lives so far away. I offered to allow him some extra time, since I thought he might wish to take them to his parents' house.
I have received no reply whatsoever.
So what do we do? Do we sit at home all afternoon on Christmas Day, skipping the traditional open house at my aunt's house, just in case he decides to exercise his custody rights? Or do we go about our celebrating, and hope that he doesn't take us to court for violating the custody order?
These are the types of quandries that happen in broken families over the holidays. Please pray that I, and others who are dealing with Christmas custody issues, will have wisdom and peace this season. Thanks!