Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Starting Over

I am starting over!

Almost four years ago, I discovered that my husband was having an online affair, and that he had taken this affair into real life.  I was devastated.  We had been married for 13 1/2 years, and had four kids, ranging in age from 5 -12. 

I spent the next two years begging him and God to restore our marriage.  But that didn't happen, and in March 2009, we were divorced.

The 2 1/2 years between D-Day, when the affair was disclosed and the day the final divorce papers arrived in the mail were a time of grieving, but also a time of growth for me.  I rode the roller coaster of emotions that anyone who has been through the death of a marriage is familiar with, but I didn't ride alone. 

God rode with me, all the way.  He surrounded me with His love, and with friends who could show me His love and support me when times were rough.  He put me in a body of believers where I could worship and be cared for, but where I could not minister during that time.  And even though He didn't restore my marriage, He restored my soul on an almost daily basis.

Now I am moving on.  My kids and I have found a new "normal" for our family.  I have been counseled and attended support groups.  And I am ready to start over. 

I cannot leave my past behind entirely, and I am willing to share it with you, especially  if you find yourself on that roller coaster of divorce.  But I also hope to share some of the day-to-day challenges and triumphs that are part of my new normal.  I hope that we can help one another, no matter where we are on this journey through divorce and into a new beginning. 

Won't you join me on this journey?


emilylindphotography said...

I can't believe its been 4 years! You are amazing Dini,

Denise Houser said...

Thanks Emily! It will be four years in November. And I am not amazing, but I do have an amazing God. :-)

Hope said...

"Let it go and let God" I learned in alanon.
Hatred and anger only hurt us and like termites eats away at us from the inside out.
He is not an angry God. Prayers always work !