tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1169955222454554542.post3698959079438800302..comments2016-04-26T15:54:14.581-04:00Comments on God Hates Divorce; God Loves the Divorced: Silence Is GoldenDenise Houserhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08852688674523592809noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1169955222454554542.post-6545995372065455342012-02-14T01:01:51.150-05:002012-02-14T01:01:51.150-05:00Agree... I have found writing a prayer journal is ...Agree... I have found writing a prayer journal is helping me through the rough times. The times of doubt. Our situations are COMPLETELY different but often similar. I find myself crying out to God saying - God I never wanted this for my life. I never asked to be alone. I just want someone to hold me. To grow old with me. Now I am here seeing myself growing old, watching the men around me panting like dogs for women in their 20s and realizing unless I chalk out zillions of dollars, that will not be me again... and wondering will I ever find someone to grow old with. I hear the words - be happy in yourself. Be happy with God. But I try... and realize he created me to feel the way I do. Longing to find love. I didnt make me this way. It is normal. <br /><br />I also find the words of a song by Casting Crowns beneficial in times when you don't have the answers "Love em like Jesus" I wish more Christians would take this approach instead of trying to give us all the answers instead of just admitting we don't have them. <br /><br />I am also finding many many women flocking to me for help and encouragement in their own struggles with separation and divorce. I am struggling because one - I am fresh into my own situation but they see me as "strong and handling it well". But two - IT IS DIFFERENT! No two situations are alike. I know people sending women my way want me to have the answers and frankly... I just don't... <br /><br />So I am choosing to "love em like Jesus" Be there for them. But not offer much advice unless it is a cut and dry question. Because I just don't go the answer and this is delicate stuff. <br /><br />I know I myself am shying away from divorce care ministry because I am afraid of the cookie cutter answers Christians give. the ones I myself once gave. <br /><br />Love em like Jesus. And journal. God already knows my feelings. So I talk to him straight. Tell him everything. Good and BAD. And yes. I got the bad feelings too. But he already knows so we discuss those too. It helps. <br /><br />(((((HUGS)))) and so you know - incase you forgot - I am still and always will be praying for you. sorry to write a book on your blog.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02836104895739447013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1169955222454554542.post-86551206932051364942012-01-09T11:24:28.183-05:002012-01-09T11:24:28.183-05:00Yes, it is true that we need to find peace and str...Yes, it is true that we need to find peace and strength in God. But God cannot hold us at night with strong arms... and God can't get the heavy things out of the attic :) God listens to our prayers, but that's not the same thing as a person who loves you listening AND giving support and encouragement. In order to get support and encouragement from God< don't you think it takes some effort on our part? There are times I just cannot put out the effort. I am spent. That's when I want to be with a human who can hold me and I gain strength from that. Is that wrong?<br /><br />I am praying for you Denise. That hard part is waiting on the Lord, because I truly believe he wants that for all his children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1169955222454554542.post-19671488410972137902012-01-07T10:05:28.290-05:002012-01-07T10:05:28.290-05:00((((hugs))))((((hugs))))Reginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03723884153929593267noreply@blogger.com